Lifestyle Rules of the Road
The #1 Rule of swinging: No means No!
If you can't respect other people's wishes, or you can't voice your own, then swinging is NOT for you! No is not an insult.
No may be because of a mood, a rule, or it might mean the other person (couple) is not ready. It may also mean, No, thank
you, but I'm not interested. That is every swingers prerogative. It may or may not be personal. We are all adults. Deal with it!
Communication
Few parties are going to lead straight to bed. Most people prefer to get to know each other a little. Remember,
attraction isn't totally physical (Hey, stop looking down my shirt!) Remember to converse with both partners. Don't get
too preoccupied with the opposite sexes' pants! If one partner doesn't feel comfortable with you, you probably won't be
going home with either of them!
Conversation
Learn to communicate openly. Express what your wants and concerns are to other couples. It will make the experience better
for both. Introductions: As silly as it may seem, don't forget to introduce people. Even if you've just met two couples,
introduce them. You will seem friendly and polite. Everyone will be less confused!
Hands
Watch those hands. Don't be handsy;. Don't grab other people, their breasts, their butts, don't pull up their skirts. Before
you have had sex, it's rude. After you have had sex, its still rude! Being handsy makes people uncomfortable. Even worse,
it makes people not like you.
Aggressiveness
Don't be pushy. Let couples proceed at their own rate. If you are interested in someone simply tell them so. Ask them if they
would like to get together. But don't ask them every 5 minutes. Don't call them everyday ask to get together. This may seem an
extreme example, but hopefully you get the point. It may not happen right away, but being pushy won't make it happen any faster
or better!
The 10 Lifestyle Commandments
1. Never attempt to break up a couple.
2. Always keep dates unless you give ample notice of changing circumstances.
3. Always keep the first meeting on a no strings attached basis, but be prepared to swing if it is mutually
agreeable, or to give an honest answer if something doesn't click.
4. Never, under any circumstances exert pressure on a partner to swing.
5. Restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested persons seeking information.
6. Protect the anonymity of other swingers by refraining from unauthorized name dropping.
7. Always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.
8. Do not engage in any unlawful activity that would discredit swingers as a group.
9. Be friendly and warm with your swing partners, but understand that there is a type of emotional involvement,
which is properly reserved for a spouse or primary significant other.
10. Always show respect for the personal attitudes, feelings and hang-ups of other swingers.