Etiquette
The Club:
Respecting this facility and everyone you meet here is a requirement for attending events at the club. Remember
there may be people attending that aren't in the lifestyle. All are welcome here.
Good Manners are Essential
We all want to have fun with the people we meet, and the best way to achieve this is by adhering to good old-fashioned
manners. Here are some etiquette rules to live by to be sure you have the best time possible:
Golden Rule: NO Means NO!
Anyone may say NO, for any reason, at any time; even if you are in the middle of a swinging encounter and have changed
your mind and want to stop immediately. If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say NO. Do not
jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle, or that of your partner by doing something against your
will, just because you are afraid to say no. The friendliest way to say it is, Oh no thank you, but thanks for asking.
Be honest initially, and you will avoid any misunderstandings. Don't forget that people's attitudes change, and maybe
sometime in the future you may meet again with a different opinion.
Always treat everyone with RESPECT
After all, this is a party! Besides, you do not want to be rude or judgmental, because you would not want it to happen
to you. If a single person talks to you and you are interested in swinging with couples only, that doesn't mean you can't
be nice to the person. They're a person just like you, so just politely let the individual know.
Don't take offense if you are rejected. (It happens to everyone.)
Rejection is a very personal thing, and it's almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Being honest with each
other is crucial, and who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation right.
Deal with jealousy!
It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical and recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover
what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your
relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.
Always let your partner know they're number one.
Arrive together and leave together. Take time to caress your partner and touch base often to help him/her feel secure. Don't
disappear with someone without letting your partner know.
Be kind, thoughtful and sensitive.
Use your common sense and good judgement when you are involved in a swinging situation. All swingers, including single males
and females have feelings!
Honor your partner!
Respect any and all prior understandings you have made between each other, and be sure to communicate with each other openly
and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules. Respect the guidelines you've set as a couple and communicate
them to prospective partners. Open and honest communication is imperative to forming relationships. Don't forget to respect the
guidelines of others too. Don't try to talk them into changing the rules because you don't happen to agree with them!
Pay attention to body language.
There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with, and it might tell you
more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy
and excited.
Discretion is imperative!
Discretion is vital in this lifestyle and privacy is imperative! Never discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do and
everything you see, MUST remain private. Everything you see at Kaleidoscope, and everything you hear at Kaleidoscope, must remain
here when you leave. NO GOSSIP